dear dear-lifers,

for those of you who read my previous post... i need some advice. yesterday i was put in a very awkward position where my friend's boyfriend asked me if anything had happened between the other 2. i told him to ask them. well, thing is... they lied.

to tell or not to tell? i really don't know. anyone have experience with a similar situation?

casting thoughts out into the great wide web,
l.c.

6 comments:

Em said...

LC -
Maybe plant a seed in his mind that they lied?

But then again, is it really your place? And do you just want to wash your hands of the situation?

I'm probably giving bad advice...but there isn't really a right or a wrong answer here.

Lots of love and luck,
Em

blondie said...

while there may be no justice in it, it might be in your best interest to stay out of it. No good can come from you being the whistle blower, bc regardless of how wrong their actions were - they will blame you for breaking up all of their friendships/relationships and you're friendship with all of them will end too. you're in a no win situation. (sorry!) Be patient. Obviously the seed is already planted in his brain. Where there is smoke, there's fire. He'll figure it out.

ML said...

yes, i have to agree with blondie. it may be best for you to separate yourself from the crazy amount of drama they've created for themselves. and if he asked you, he knows. he just wanted to hear it.

Anonymous said...

I concur with the last two comments. It would totally be ALL BAD for you to say anything to him about their lying and the situation. Let them all go down together and separate yourself from them.

Guess it's time to start scouting for new hook ups and friends! :)

--TR

Anonymous said...

Yup yup. The dude is in a bad place...but that has nothing to do with you. The only thing you can get from getting involved is trouble. Say nothing. That doesn't mean lie, that just means that you should stay out of it.

And deep six both the ex and your "friend" who fucked him.

-T

J said...

I agree, the truth will come out. Obviously your friend could not keep it in if she got drunk and spilled the beans to you. Her conscience will slowly eat at her, expecially if the boy is suspicious, and it will come out. Meanwhile, you can take the high road and find other friends and fuckbuddies to move on to.