Dear Errn,

The last several men I've dated have done grandiose things with their lives including volunteering in nursing homes, working with kids with disabilities, spending their summers as mentors to young boys, and modestly receiving countless awards of achievement and humility. Turns out 'nice guys' still have no problem dropkicking you in the teeth. After your dog/best friend dies. And probably on Valentine's Day.

BIGGEST LESSON LEARNED: Just because someone's good on paper, doesn't mean they have a kind heart. Without that, they're no better than Ted Bundy.

Don't Put Anyone Else Above You,
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